I'm almost all of the way through DR now, and I feel like I grasp it better if I try explaining it to other people. The important thing is if it helps britt54 and her sitch.
Britt, you have a lot of people pulling for you on these forums, so don't give up hope. Marriages have come back from a lot worse place than you are right now, but it'll take time and patience.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement