I'm having a hard time today. W & I divided up our movie collection last night...so many of "our" movies that we've enjoyed watching together for years.
Then we had another discussion about custody. We're really trying to work out the custody schedule between us w/o getting L's involved. As sad as it sounds, we only have 44 hours per week to spend with our S. (The rest of the time, he's either at daycare or sleeping.) We came up with a way to split those 44 hours evenly & right now it looks like I'm going to be a Wednesday-Saturday dad. And I talked her into letting me steal one of her hours every Sunday morning so I can take our S to church.
Then we started talking about how there will always be exceptions to the schedule..birthdays, holidays, etc. I mentioned my b-day coming up & W said, "Of course I figured you'd want him for your b-day. I hope you don't think I'm so cold & heartless that I'd deny you that." I said nothing.
This entire sitch sucks. W is turning my life & our S's life upside down...all because of some undefined "needs" of hers that have changed & aren't being met. To me, that is SO selfish. If your needs aren't being met, do something to work on the M so they will be met...or at the very least, communicate those needs to me. It's all about her and this fairy tale perception of "love" that she expects 24/7. I'll never understand how she could break up our family like this. Never.
Last edited by etrain; 10/22/0901:03 PM.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
This entire sitch sucks. W is turning my life & our S's life upside down...all because of some undefined "needs" of hers that have changed & aren't being met. To me, that is SO selfish. If your needs aren't being met, do something to work on the M so they will be met...or at the very least, communicate those needs to me. It's all about her and this fairy tale perception of "love" that she expects 24/7. I'll never understand how she could break up our family like this. Never.
My sentiments exactly! Although I had issues with my W and some pretty harsh resentment issues towards her, I didn't walk out on her. I stuck it out and remained in our M, THROUGH THICK AND THIN!
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
W sent OM another email last night. Thank you, keylogger. Something innocent followed by..."I'm at home so you better not reply. Have a wonderful night!" Plus smiley faces galore.
They're obviously communicating at work only these days...but my W can't help herself & still has to send the occasional email from home.
Now, should I let OM W know about this?
Last edited by etrain; 10/22/0909:20 PM.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
You can certainly take the steam out of an affair by letting the OM's wife know what's going on, but be prepared for backlash from your wife.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
OM W has been informed and wanted you to drop it. It is her business now whether she wants to be an ostrich, fight for her M, or turn her husband into a gelding.
You need to think seriously about whether you want to continue monitoring their communication. What if one of those emails has some sexual details of stuff they did or were going to do? You have to be thinking about what such knowlege can do to you in the long run.
