A lot of points were made that became very valid as I thought about them....it wasn't just "you need to tell him because you cheated on him", although that is a good enough reason. Sometimes I just need to hear it being said in many ways and in a kind, supportive way.
In other words, MY advice doesn't really help any.
A lot of points were made that became very valid as I thought about them....it wasn't just "you need to tell him because you cheated on him", although that is a good enough reason. Sometimes I just need to hear it being said in many ways and in a kind, supportive way.
In other words, MY advice doesn't really help any.
Puppy
lol Your advice, mixed with everyone else's advice, was perfect! I need your advice, always, Pup. I look for it, expect it, and hope that I will always get it. There are too many similarities in our situations.
I never thought my h appreciated how I looked and dressed because he never showed or said anything. I remember past times wanting to get Victoria Secret stuff and him not being impressed and later telling me that it just didn't "do it for him".
Sometimes I think it is better to not be overly suggestive, ( Over the top underwear etc.), but maybe just dress nice WITH a bit of seduction like a low cut top thrown in. It's all about HOW one does it.....and also about HOW one wears it ...........and attitude of course !!!!!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Yeah, I get it. I think when I did the VS thing it put pressure on him. He has issues with that. He'd rather have me dress "naturally sexy" than wear a "I'm ready for sex, when are you gonna do something about it" outfit.
lol....nope, he out of town for work.....have started my folic acid, though.....which means that I'm expecting something to happen in a couple months...
Sweetheart I am so glad you did not listen to my first post and try to "protect" your H from more pain. Especially after what he said regarding his family in past times. It sure made me stop and rethink! There were so many here praying and pulling for you that it seemed as if it could not have gone any better.
You did the right thing and now you feel free as a bird and ready to really start fresh with a brand new R. I'm so happy for you!
Hope you will stick around b/c I remember what great posts you wrote before. You can be a wonderful help for folks.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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