Being on the forums as long as I have has taught me to try to really listen to what people say, and even if I disagree to reallllly think about it. I do know my h more than anyone on here, but what people say on here is not based upon what they know about my h, it is more objective. So, that can be good. A lot of points were made that became very valid as I thought about them....it wasn't just "you need to tell him because you cheated on him", although that is a good enough reason. Sometimes I just need to hear it being said in many ways and in a kind, supportive way. I knew that no matter what I would get support on here, and that made a difference, too. Really, this forum has been a godsend to me.
I never thought my h appreciated how I looked and dressed because he never showed or said anything. I remember past times wanting to get Victoria Secret stuff and him not being impressed and later telling me that it just didn't "do it for him". So, I just stopped trying with that. I think things are changing, though, and just because he said that some years ago, doesn't mean that is the way it is now. Just in this past year of reconnecting he HAS said more about those low cut tops of mine, or tight fitting tops, and my tall boots, or how he noticed some guy checkin me out.....ahhhh, how could I miss it?
