Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

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I'm having a hard time today. W & I divided up our movie collection last night...so many of "our" movies that we've enjoyed watching together for years.

Then we had another discussion about custody. We're really trying to work out the custody schedule between us w/o getting L's involved. As sad as it sounds, we only have 44 hours per week to spend with our S. (The rest of the time, he's either at daycare or sleeping.) We came up with a way to split those 44 hours evenly & right now it looks like I'm going to be a Wednesday-Saturday dad. And I talked her into letting me steal one of her hours every Sunday morning so I can take our S to church.

Then we started talking about how there will always be exceptions to the schedule..birthdays, holidays, etc. I mentioned my b-day coming up & W said, "Of course I figured you'd want him for your b-day. I hope you don't think I'm so cold & heartless that I'd deny you that."
I said nothing.

This entire sitch sucks. W is turning my life & our S's life upside down...all because of some undefined "needs" of hers that have changed & aren't being met. To me, that is SO selfish. If your needs aren't being met, do something to work on the M so they will be met...or at the very least, communicate those needs to me. It's all about her and this fairy tale perception of "love" that she expects 24/7.
I'll never understand how she could break up our family like this.
Never.