Quote: I'm confused! I'm still replaying last night in my head over and over and getting different feelings each time.
I'll keep processing.
try not to spend too much energy trying to "process" h's behaviour...it will drive you mad.
I watched my h fluctuate (during sep) from being chatty and hanging around the house after putting son to bed to putting his boots on as fast as he could to leave, calling to not calling being grumpy, to looking sad, to getting some greys...he ran the whole gamet it all made no sense...just when he'd start being friendly he'd take a few more things from the house...but then he'd move stuff in the house to it's new place (finished the basement while he was out and he moved his stuff from the attic to it's place in "his" sports pub)
plus think of it this way..if you keep the focus on "his" actions and "his" reactions to things then when he does come home to you may find yourself on overload "processing".
try to just relax...keep the focus on you and let things flow.
