Problems after the affair...Rebuilding

[saffie]

Yep, and it confirmed that I really need to continue to seek advice from you guys. The "old way" didn't work for me so in order to get a "new way" I need to seek new information and do new things

WDID,

I still think that when you voiced concerns about telling your H, the reactions you got from the boards were pretty evenly split between those people who's S's had had A's ,and those who had HAD the A. I thinks that does make a difference. Once you have been cheated on I believe that for most people, they need complete honesty, even if it may sting a bit.....and though you don't know me, I am so proud of what you did!!!

On the dressing sexy thing. You know, my H gets a real buzz out of thinking that other guys 'like' the way I look and dress- yet he's the one that gets to go home with me . I think they want to be proud of us!! I also try to make an effort now, on an every day basis, to get out of all my 'horsey' clothes and put a bit of make-up on for when my H gets home. I can see that he appreciates I have made the effort and it also makes me feel better about myself. I don't particularly dress 'sexy' for him on an average day, but I do try to look nice; it obviously is something that meant more to him than I thought.