I really want to say something to him which tells him that I am not ambivalent about our marriage - as I think that he now sees me. I think that he kind of feels that I have accepted that this is over. I've stopped pursuing (mostly!), no shouting, no screaming, no tempter tantrums, no anything ... just 'acceptance' and nothing else. I've given him stuff from the home, I've complied with so much that he wants. I've got a job and I've been financially supportive of him. He thinks that I am done ... I just don't know what to do next .... I don't want him to feel that way because as you know, I'm anything but done.
You are lying to yourself. You ARE still pursuing. Have been pursuing.
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Was at an appointment near H's place and stopped for some lunch as I had time. Realising how close I was, I sent a text to H to ask if he wanted me to drop in a card of his that I am holding. Told him:
Me: I'm in the neighbourhood and haven't got much time but could drop your card in
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Got to work and started my day. Next thing, H emailed to say thank you for a warning that I had sent him, regarding some stores which have had a real hammering on card fraud.
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To close, I described a situation last night where the cats had been so cute at play ... I know that he would have loved to have seen their antics and I told him about it - even though short and sweet.
I asked after his health (he was having palpitations) but he ignored that totally and there was no more back and forth emails.
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He said that he would respond to my previous emails when he gets back as his wifi connection was poor at the hotel.
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I was so concerned as to whether or not he was getting back at the weekend and, after having sent something to his work email address, his out of office confirmed that he will be back on Monday so I am now cock-a-hoop knowing that he will not be staying interstate at the weekend!
This has all been in the last 10 days or so. This is nothing but pursuit. He can FEEL it. Trust me. You have to stop this pursuing and then telling yourself you aren't. It isn't working.
