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[Trixi]

Well, color me surprised; I may have sold my H short because he appears to be committed to this process. Well, at least until November 15th when we do the "conflict" post session.

He came over tonight and we did 2 dialogues. It was good. He is feeling curious and encouraged about finding resolution thru the process. Long story short, I had mentioned that I am worn out and tired and that if he plans to keep me excluded from his life, it will do a great deal of damage. He was quite adamant that we wait until we have done several post sessions before doing the tough stuff. He said he hasn't felt this close to me in a very long time and he sees the wisdom in learning more skills and being closer/feeling more positive before tackling the deeper issues.

God sure does work in mysterious ways; last night H couldn't come over because he was having a carport built on the side of the house. Turns out the installers came from an hour south of Portland. They didn't get done until 10pm. H told me that he had been thinking about how long the drive was going to be for us and how he was really not wanting to do it, but after seeing these guys last night and knowing that they had just spent 7 hours building a carport and wouldn't be home until 2am, he figures it will be easy for us (by comparison.)
Also, I spoke to 2 of the presenting couples today who said they knew of people who really were very successful because of the long drive; they took that time to continue to talk and get to know each other.

So, I am really pleased. I don't know where we will end up, but this is the most 'progress' we've made in a long time.