I cannot live in a marriage where my husband is ..

[Deep]

Listen to PDT and BR, BM. Like I told you, this is going to be a journey measured in months, if not years. Yes, you feel doubly betrayed because H confessed to the affair, stated his intention to work at the M, and now he seems to have slept with OW just 12 hours ago.

Remember, believe not a single thing he says, and 50% of what he does. I listen to you, and I hear the anger but also a desire for your M back that is not expressed in your posts here.

You need to detach, and there's no better place to get help on doing so than here. Don't stop reading DR. Make sure you keep your appointment with the doctor to refill your anti-depression meds. Stop letting the kids be used as proxies in the "war" between you and H. At once. Both of you need to stop doing this immediately.

You're going to have a probable challenging talk with H in a few hours. Gather your faith, strength, and courage. Yes, I know the pain is incredible, the hurt is agony, you want to punish him and you want revenge and "justice". That's why you need to detach. That's why you need to remember that you've always said you wanted your M and the H you married back. You have to stand up for what you want then, because right now, there ain't anyone else that's gonna do it for you ...

PDT: I think she meant "love bites". That H confessed to the A, promised to end it yesterday. Then hugged her and cried with her in the wee hours this morning before going back to his room, and she thinks he did that while covered with fresh hickies from OW. That kind of pushed her buttons.