Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

OK, let's see if I can take a whack at things, me being a newcomer as well.

Sometimes the best way to learn is to teach. I'm sure more experienced hands will jump in if I get too mixed up...

My husband wakes up one day and tells me is is not happy. Why I ask? He has no idea... well wonderful so how are we supposed to fix this if he doesn't know why?

You can't trust anything he says at this point. He's not sure of what he wants, so he's going to say things to drive you away, make you doubt yourself, and convince himself that he's doing the right thing.

After I think this is a positive thing and he's reaching out to me, he doesn't get in contact with me for 3 days! Heartbroken all over again! I'm having troubles letting go, I'm scared to death of lonliness.

Then this is the time to take control of your life and your emotions. He doesn't get to put you through the wringer like this.

Coach has a great post about detachment here; the whole thread is very good. If you're going to make it as a person, either with your husband or without, you need to take control of your emotional well-being.

I'm walking on eggshells in hopes he sees a new me and wants to be in my life. We have only been married 2 years! We have to little boys! My youngest is still in diapers! How on earth could you want to walk out on that! I just don't get it.

He's not sure he wants to walk out on it yet. If he was, he'd be gone.

Should I be moving on? And how do you? I'm a stay at home mom! I have no life other than my husband and boys! I'm in dire straits and I don't know how to get out...please help!

I'd say find a copy of The Divorce Remedy and start there. There are lots of people here who will be able to give you good advice as you work through this.