Beauty, Have you talked to your doctor at all about this? I highly recommend using antidepressants if you need them, or anti-anxiety medications.
The bottom line is that you need to calm down and be very deliberate with your actions over the next little while. No matter what choice you make as to the future of your marriage, you need to make that choice in a calm and centered way.
None of this happens over night, it didnt take a few weeks for things to go down hill did it? You arent going to be able to fix them in a few weeks either.
Most importantly, if he is having an A, the best thing that you can do right now is make sure that he sees you as a better alternative if things in the A become less than perfect. A's almost always fail. Built on lies and secrets, how can they be sucessful? But its important for you to realize that while he is involved with an OP, the things that you say, no matter how heart felt, or poigniant, will not get to him. You need to take this time to focus on you.
Have you set goals for yourself, or started getting a life? What are your 180's? I think that you can use this new anger to motivate yourself to get out there and start on a great new path for yourself!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
