Okay, need help calming down and not getting too excited, cause I know it all depends...but just hung up with XH, he called D10 and I needed to talk to him regarding her BB sign ups. So, then we started talking about the kids, I was filling him in, it went really great. I was totally calm, nice, never said a word about anything that didn't have to do with the kids. So, when I was telling him about D10 and her therapist, he chimes in..."I am starting counseling this next week!!!" I still didn't even react, I didn't even say I was glad or anything, just listened. He then said he was going to work on himself and help him deal with long-distance parenting...I had to bite my tounge not to say "you don't have to be long-distance, I love you, come home"!! I just said "oh, who are you going to? Are you going back to our MC?" and he said no. But, he is going!!! And, I just pray it is the right therapist with the right advice and help. I hope they are well researched in MLC and can spot it right away. I am praying and praying for him!! I know he is in there, I have seen too many signs not to have some hope.

I was sooo good on the phone with him...I am sooo proud and it felt so good to just be there and listen. So, maybe just maybe, he is seeing the changes and wants to work on himself. Either way, I can feel the changes in me and I love that even more!!

Thanks so much everyone, thinking about my support here made it so easy not to bring up R with XH and just listen, you guys are the best!

A

Me-40
XH-44
T-21
M-18
Div-19 mo.
D-18,S-15,D-11
Bomb-7/07 EA,PA
Mvd out-9/07-to give me space
mvd back-12/07
mvd out-7/08
back with OW since 2/08
OW broke it off-1/10
in and out of tunnel and our life since!!