P,

I didn't even make it halfway thru your post, sorry. You can sum the entire thing up with:

"My wife things she's in love with OM, and is telling other people that. What should I do?"

NEWS FLASH: EVERY wayward spouse thinks they've found their soulmate. It's the LOOOOOVE chemicals talking.

Do this: Google "PEA love addiction brain", and do 30 minutes of reading. Then come back and tell us what you think.

Puppy

P.S. My wife said/did just about every one of the things you describe.