I finally got the hard evidence of my W's affair tonight and confirmed that it was with the person that I thought it was with. I feel like I have been hit by a truck, it is so hard to see the evidence in plain English in front of you. In some ways, it is good b/c I think that I needed the confirmation to be able to help me lay down the boundary and detach. Things had felt so positive between us lately.
I don't want to show her the evidence right now b/c I don't want her to know how I got it (she would be ticked off). Knowing that she is very close to initiating S, I feel that I need to lay down the boundary tonight when she gets home and confront her that I know about the A.
I really need help with suggestions on how best to approach this conversation tonight. Any advice is sincerely appreciated.
