Is this the end of my marriage?

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Had a few setbacks today and a couple of conversations with friends. I have to be honest I haven't digested it yet and I'm also thinking of giving up now as I think the nails are in the coffin. I hope you guys can reassure me / encourage me to keep going but I do feel this may be the final end end of this whole thing.

Spoke to a friend of mine who has had a few conversations with my W over the last few weeks. She has told me:

1. When she asked me W it there was any chance of reconciliation between me and her she said 'no, never'.

2. She told my W to tell me about the OM as she couldn't have her cake and eat it too.

3. My MIL doesn't approve of what my W is doing and that she has jumped out of the frying pan into the fire.

4. My wife had discussed our financial problems with her - problems that were resolved just before she decided to leave.

I THEN had my D's mother call me. She has interfered and had a meeting with my W to offer her time with my D as I can't handle it!?!? She told me, when my W came around, that:

1. When asked if there was a chance me and my W would get back together she said 'no, never'.

2. My W and the boyfriend are together.

3. The boyfriend is looking for a job and is quitting smoking (after 32 years - my W is allergic to cigarette smoke).

4. My W and I split up as I said we would have to wait 3 years before having children (a lie, we had been trying for 9 months before she left!!?)

5. She is the happiest she has been in a long time.

6. She hopes the OM and her are a long term thing.

7. My W will never get married again (well she'll need to get divorced first!)

8. The last holiday we had was the last straw and that's when she decided she had had enough.

9. My D's mother said she did look happy and was laughing etc. while there. This sort of blows my theory out the window about her being deeply unhappy. I may have misread that one entirely and she's actually just deeply unhappy when with me.

10. She agreed that the time being spent with me and my D is awkward and uncomfortable.

11. My W hated the time she spent in her house on her own. Funnily enough I think that was also the time she was texting me a lot.

I'm mad at my D's mother for interfering but it's done now. She will go back and tell her that she will have to spend the time with me as already planned.

Not sure what to make of any of this but I do feel like giving up now and just accepting that it's over. Hhaving two different people tell you she said the same thing to them about not getting back together is putting that final nail in the coffin.

I am fairly certain that the relationship with the OM will not last but how much more hatred and kicks in the teeth can I take.

I don't want to sound like I'm feeling sorry for myself but it's a lot to take in one day. I'm trying hard not to analyse it and just accept it for what it is. When her actions and words match up then we'll see but if my daughters mother did give her the time with my D on her own, I doubt I'd see or hear from my W again so in that case the words would match.

If I'm grabbing my balls I'd say keep the contact between my W, my D and me. Be engaging (as PDT says) and wait this one out until the OM disappears and then take it from there.

As I said, I think I maybe at the end of this and time for a reality check ... help, somebody?

Advice anybody? Help, pep talk ... anything ?