Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Here's this evenings thought - arrived at while lying on the bedroom floor playing with S1...

What if what Mrs. Thinker says is true?

She says "I can NEVER be happy if I am married to you."

I have always either listened while privately disagreeing, dismissed it as script, or (worse) tried to refute what she is saying by using logic (ie we can work it out, love is a decision, etc).

And, I know this is true, if she let go and worked through her own issues and I worked through mine and we worked things out, we could both be happy in this M.

but...

What if she can't do that. What if for her own reasons, she can REALLY TRULY never let go of the resentment. She can Really never stop blaming. She can Really never work on the this M. etc, and for these reasons (all internal to her) it IS true. She really never can be happy while married to me.

If that were the case, what would I want? What would I do?

In that case, I'd want her try to be happy in the only way she could - by leaving. I'd wish her well and let her go. My choice.

And, I'd want her to leave for my own self-compassionate reasons as well - so I could move on. Also my choice.