Wife says she wants me to move on

[brknheart]

Update:

She came over tonight again. Ive been doing a lot of thinking since yesterday and I finally told her that I need to move on.
Based what people have posted and what friends have said, I know this is whats best for me. I cant keep torturing myself. I didnt want to meet up as "friends", just because she felt pity for me. She did ask if we are going to see each other anymore, I said only if its needed. I dont want to be a total ass to her, but I made a point that I need to detach from her and think and act on my future. We then went on to have a nice conversation about whats been going on in our week, as well as some things in our past. I was surprised on how well the conversation came out, she didnt get angry or mad even talking about the sad things over the years. First civil conversation we have had in months. We agreed not to discuss the D until December, when we are both out of school. She even said she wasnt sure how she would feel in December when she has a clear mind. Im not reading into that, I know I cant, I am moving on. She still feels we can be friends after DDay, but I really dont think that will happen. Another thing I came to grips about is the fact I have not control over anybody except myself. I know she is talking/flirting with some guy, which has been making me feel angry, but I have to tell myself she is her own person. If she makes a mistake and gets taken advantage of, she will have to learn from those mistakes. I feel a lot better right now, I feel I have control. Hopefully I can continue to stay like this, but I know I will have my good and bad days.