You got to do what you should / One life

[MichelleLT]

Yeah, he almost goes back and forth. When we first separated (July 2007), he was pushing it hard. It was the biggest thing we were fighting about - every time I said that I wouldn't file jointly with him it turned into a HUGE argument - "you just don't want me to be happy" "you're just doing this to spite me" etc etc etc. I just kept saying, "I don't believe in D, so I can't file jointly".

Finally he quit asking. Things were good for a while. Then he did the whole half-hearted R thing for a month (back in 2008). Then it was the same D litany again. Finally, I decided to do something different and agreed. He didn't say anything about it for MONTHS.

Finally, I had to be the one who started pushing it. I was starting to date again and felt weird dating while I was still M. Plus he was still being very determined that we would not R, so I resigned myself to the D. And now I am the one doing all the paperwork, tracking the deadlines, etc. Cuz he won't do it. I didn't even want this to begin with, so it just annoys me to no end!