I have been told that H and I have R talks too much. To an extent that is true. I do know that in my sitch (we are S, 5 months) when I completely feel like I have had it, I do bring up a question or a frustration of mine which leads into a R talk. After H and I talk and I understand how H is thinking/feeling, I feel a whole lot better.
My 2 cents: if you really feel like a good talk is warranted than do it. If you get good results then GREAT, if you don't get good results then you know what not to do.
