I just finished grilling burgers and cleaning up from dinner. W has already Made plans for this saturday and next saturday after the kids go out for Halloween. I'm tired of being the BB sitter. I plan on going out this sunday, next friday and saturday if I can get a sitter. I also plan on following up on the technical advice I received from Puppy. Time to take the mask off of this and move forward.
JJ
So what are you going to do about that?
Why are you the default baby sitter?
I'm going to correct you as a side note, if they're your kids, it's not called baby sitting, it's called being a parent - remember that. Other people can baby sit for you, when it's you doing it, you're just parenting and watching your children.
Why is getting a sitter your responsibility.
I know pushing back against someone who regularly runs over you is uncomfortable but it isn't going to get any easier until you start doing it.
I remember being a doormat, it sucked. I remember being a wuss and my wife disrespecting me, it sucked, "why does she treat me this way, doesn't she realize that she's hurting my feelings? I don't understand it, isn't she supposed to love me?"
No love without respect, and your wife doesn't respect you.
She can only respect you when you start to respect yourself.
Respecting yourself takes alot of courage for people who have never done that actively before.
But just because it's scary doesn't mean you don't do it.
Here's your 180 for today, you know which days your wife is going to be out of the house, tell her to arrange for a baby sitter because you won't be home on those days either. In fact you will plan to leave the home before she does on those specific days.
No excuses, just do it.
No "but I can't....", just do it.
You can do it, turn that thought into action.
Take back your life. Respect yourself enough to let go of the people that don't respect you or the relationship they have with you, if I have to I'm going to ram this into anyone's brain on this forum that needs to learn this, you have to get this point and understand it and the power you have by doing this, power you have that isn't being utilized.
