Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Dia]

Maybe I'm being too simplistic here, but what about sitting down with her and simply saying...

"I need to talk to you because I need your help. I am feeling unloved, unwanted and unappreciated. This is not about sex; this is about feelings. I would like to see if we can come up with some ways to improve the situation for me."

... and then see where the conversation goes.

I would be prepared with a mental list of baby steps from your primary LLs, such as:

I would like you to hold my hand.

I would like you to hug me.

I would like you to sit with me when we watch TV.

I would like to hear your appreciation when I do something for you.

etc.