Some WAS get this way - only the actual procedure of D relieves the pressure enough for them to come out of their shell.
If you still love your W and want to see where this goes, then let it all play out and see where it goes. Determine and set your boundaries, then stick to them.
If that doesn't work for you, that's fine, too.
Either way, be strong. You can get through this whatever "this" is.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137