Hi H, Yes, I can relate to the quandry of, wanting it to just be over vs. the finality of it all is kind of scary. Yes, I feel more sensitive sometimes, after all you've been through it's normal. Sometimes friends, even relatives don't get it, & it's hard to hear what they have to say. Was your girlfriend ever married? Perhaps she is really not in a position to advise you. If she's a good friend try letting her know now is not the time to lecture, listening may be more appreciated right now!
Re: The lawyers, yes, I saw 3 and all consultations were free. I asked when calling, one place wanted $100 for the consult & I didnt' go to them. It might say on their website or you can definitely call & ask. I got one referral from a coworker, that's another way - you can ask people you know. There's a website http://family.findlaw.com/ I found which can help you locate Ls near you & also has info on what questions to ask etc.
As for me, haven't heard from H in about a month now. I think he moved in with OW. If you have time to check my thread all the details are there. Ugghhhhh. It's ugly. I have been fairly OK, with moments of not, ADs have really helped. Havent' done well w GAL, work has taken over the past couple weeks, I really need to work on that much more. Thanks for asking. You are in my thoughts too. It is hard to be single after many yrs with someone, but you deserve to be treated well & so do I. In my single days, I used to say I'd rather be alone than treated like crap (had a few bad relationships lol) I need to focus on me right now & not me as part of a couple. You have my support too H! (((((H))))))
