Not much new to report, H seemed to be out of the fog last night. He even initiated saying goodbye with a hug and kiss..a first. H was at the top of the rollercoaster on Monday, with his moodiness and accusations, Tuesday he was still kind of throwing stuff at me, but did a lot to help me around the house, last night he was a new person, the guy I remember when we first met So the fog has lifted...for now.
H and S19 are putting up tree stands and is taking S3 with, he did say unless I wanted to do something with S3 tomorrow..I said no he can go with you guys. In the past, when he said something like that I would have assumed he didn't want to take him and that he was dumping S3 on me. But last night I really listened and he geniunely meant "unless you want to do something with him" in that he knows I like spending time with S3 and taking him places, NOT that H wanted to dump him so that he didn't have to deal with him. I hope that makes sense, it does to me.
He called a little while ago, was rained out at work, and said he was picking up S3 from daycare and they were heading up over night. H said so now I can go out with my boyfriend..which to me means I could have the time to myself. H was very pleasant on the phone, also
I need to really practice listening and validating, I'm usually an hour short, meaning I don't catch on right away. The light doesn't click on right away and not quite sure how to conquer that, maybe by REALLY listening...
So the fog has lifted...for now.
