Totally understandable. In fact, most of us can relate to the feeling of losing your identity to the other person. That is why most of us are here. That is why it is critical to figure what your boundaries are so you can enforce them for your well-being and his. I had no idea how controlling my x was until I was detached from the R and M. Only then did I see what kind of monster I was dealing w. Adultery was only the tip of the iceberg. It's amazing what a spouse put's up with in the name of what we "think" is "Love".
