I second everything that LFH says. I see the word "can't" all through your letter. It is negative. Why not take the approach that things have improved from where they were before, but you think it could still be better. You know some people who have gone to the Retrouvaille weekends with great results, and you think it would really help your marriage. You can give her a link to Retrouvaille, www.helpourmarriage.org and specifically show her the 4 stages of marriage page. It's easy to see which stage you are in now, misery. What people don't know is that there is a fourth, happy stage to marriage. And these people can show you how to get there.
