OK. So, maybe this is more of a discussion with validation (I understand you feel X, Y and Z, W) and with here are some of my concerns. I don't want a D, but I cannot live like we are.
So, 2nd draft:
W, I understand you were unhappy in our M, that you felt I was not contributing to it, that you were no longer in love with me. I am sure that was a lonely, frustrating place to be. I would not want to be in that situation either.
I feel like we have left that place of hopelessness, but I am not sure where we are today. We seem to be friends, but not a married couple with a great MR. And I don't like that. It makes me feel unloved and neglected. And I don't like feeling that way. I want a loving, caring M and I want that new R with you. But, I can't make you love me or make you stay.
But, if we remain in our current R, I cannot stay because I need to want to feel loved and appreciated.
If we are going to stay M'd, we need to put the pieces of our R back to where they should have been all along. I think we need C to help us do that. I also think a program called Retrovaille could help put us on a path of rebuilding a new, much more satisfying M.
But, I am only half our M, and I can't make you do any of that. What you choose to do is your decision. And I think the time has come for us to talk about what we are going to do.
Ok, guys, any revisions, comments, whatever are all welcome and appreciated. I think it is better if I make this a discussion about where I am and what I feel rather than making it about how she has made mistakes and threatening her (which I do not want to do), it will work better.
