Can I save my marriage?

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Hi, I am brand new to the forum and have been reading on it about a week. Finally decided to try and get some advice.

My story - Well my husband and I got pregnant before we were married. Actually we weren't even dating. We had dated the year before and broke up for a few months and in that time span got pregnant. My husband asked for me back and we gave it a shot. Within one year he proposed and we got married. Everything was perfect! A year later we decided to have another baby. So we did. 21/2 yrs into our marriage we are happy, own our own home, married, parents of two beautiful baby boys. They are 3 and 1 now. And then hell breaks loose. My husband wakes up one day and tells me is is not happy. Why I ask? He has no idea... well wonderful so how are we supposed to fix this if he doesn't know why? So I suggested marriage counseling. He agreed. He went first individually, then I went. He said he realized a lot in his session that he is a people pleaser and basically has been living this life of pleasing me since day one and doesn't feel like he is himself around me cause he's too busy pleasing me. By the end of the week we went to our session together and and hour after the session he left. Packed a suitcase and went to his sisters. That was 31/2 weeks ago. Since then he has given me mixed signals. A few times he talks about being together one day then the next its over and he has no desire to come home whatsoever. His friend came down to visit for a few days and it was his turn to have the boys so I expected not to hear from him for a few days. Halfway into the visit he called and asked me to go for lunch with them so I could meet his friend. (He lives quite far away and I hadn't met him yet). Well then my mind starts working..."why did he want me to meet his friend?" if he is so sure that its over then there would be no reason for me to meet him. So what happens next? After I think this is a positive thing and he's reaching out to me, he doesn't get in contact with me for 3 days! Heartbroken all over again! This week, my one yr old has gotten really sick with the start of pneumonia so for the days he is supposed to watch them he wants to come stay here at the house so my boy doesn't have to leave the house and get more sick. What? How is that supposed to work? I know by saying yes I'm setting myself up for heartbreak again. He is going to come stay and leave in a few days and be happy he saw his boys, and I'm going to be devastated to watch him walk out the house again. I'm having troubles letting go, I'm scared to death of lonliness. All my friends in this city are married with kids. I don't have single friends. He does. If he's bored he has people to be with to keep him busy. I feel that's why this is so easy for him and why he hasn't come home yet! But he is still really sure he doesn't want to come home. We haven't talked about it in about a week and a half cause I'm scared to death to ask how he is feeling. I am so angry with him but I can't show it at all! I'm walking on eggshells in hopes he sees a new me and wants to be in my life. We have only been married 2 years! We have to little boys! My youngest is still in diapers! How on earth could you want to walk out on that! I just don't get it. Anyways, just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation and can give me any advice as to whether there might be a chance for us,and some tips on what I should be doing? I sometimes feel like maybe our marriage is a scam and he only did it because it was the "right thing to do" in our circumstance. He once mentioned to me that he wanted to have our youngest son in hopes it would better our marriage. Very selfish I know, but does that mean my life is a scam? Should I be moving on? And how do you? I'm a stay at home mom! I have no life other than my husband and boys! I'm in dire straits and I don't know how to get out...please help!