If the anxiety is that bad, I would recommend anti-depressants or antianxiety meds. It doesn't and probably shouldn't be a long-term solution, but these are tough times. I know this well. Just go see your primary physician and he/she should be able to prescribe something for you. If every you need a crutch to get by it's now.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)