H is supposed to get DR tonight. After reading "surrendered wives", which fits DR, but at the same time works more with control issues, which I have, I am definitely trying harder than ever to not talk about R or even say anything at all about anything. Let him take the lead. With the surrendered wives I can't really put everything into practice because it is not meant for husbands who have left or cheated multiple times, but I can at least learn to let go of controlling him. The controlling my household can come later when H has shown he wants to be here.

Looking forward to a good weekend. H should have plenty of time to read. I want him to go to my class reunion with me so I will ask, but if he says no not get too upset. Just let it go because I cannot control it. Then go and have fun showing off S. Really starting to feel happy again! smile

Me29 S3
H left 4/1/09
I file 8/2/10
Divorce final 5/17/11
1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52
2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg
3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89