(((((Mac)))))) Always a wonderful day when I see you...I trust all is well with you and Mrs. Mac? It probably means me and the fishy are doing wonderful
Not much has changed in the last few days...He has stoppped checking on the little one who I may add still has that damn swine flu - We are on day 7 now and after 2 days ago apparently H decided he had done his duties...
Yesterday was older S birthday - Guess who forgot? That made me very upset last night because a part of me thought no way would he forget his childs birthday...However he did and once my kids were in bed I cried for them and what this is doing to them...
What a complete self-absorbed jerk - God help him because I sure as hell can't.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Not sure of your faith/beliefs however I truly believe we will all get through this... We will all come out ahead... Right now we are shaken and battered and bruised and depressed however as I was told today this to shall pass... I was sitting here tonight not really thinking but not really not thinking and something told me to look up a Bible passage - Psalm 42... I have never had anything tell me to look up any passages so I looked it up and I will post it here for you... For all of you... It is a bit long however it speaks volumes... Before I do that here is another bump I have encountered maybe you can help me with... Yesterday my 14 year old was arrested for trespassing - I can barely type that without crying - I haven't told my H yet - 2 reasons - Fear he really won't care and fear he may think I am not doing a good enough job and take him... What would you do?
Here is the passage - It is about spiritual depression - This is something the Bible teaches over and over again — the rhythm of trials followed by blessing (Ps. 66:10-12; Lam. 3:21-36), suffering followed by hope (Rom. 5:3-5)
Psalm 42: As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. 2 My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?
3 My tears have been my food day and night, while men say to me all day long, "Where is your God?"
4 These things I remember as I pour out my soul: how I used to go with the multitude, leading the procession to the house of God, with shouts of joy and thanksgiving among the festive throng.
5 Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and 6 my God. My [c] soul is downcast within me; therefore I will remember you from the land of the Jordan, the heights of Hermon—from Mount Mizar.
7 Deep calls to deep in the roar of your waterfalls; all your waves and breakers have swept over me.
8 By day the LORD directs his love, at night his song is with me— a prayer to the God of my life.
9 I say to God my Rock, "Why have you forgotten me? Why must I go about mourning, oppressed by the enemy?"
10 My bones suffer mortal agony as my foes taunt me, saying to me all day long, "Where is your God?"
11 Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
((((Hugs))))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Not sure of your faith/beliefs however I truly believe we will all get through this...
Thank you for that, Serenity. I am a Christian and posted today on my thread about the annual weekend retreat I've been going to for over 20 years. Kind of bittersweet. Check it out.
Originally Posted By: Serenity13
Yesterday my 14 year old was arrested for trespassing - I can barely type that without crying - I haven't told my H yet - 2 reasons - Fear he really won't care and fear he may think I am not doing a good enough job and take him... What would you do?
Depending on the nature of the trespass, I would go easy on him. Deeply disappointed, what caused you to do such a thing?, etc. He's going through a completely different rough time in your sitch at a tough age. Husband will not be able to take him away. Period. I don't recall all your sitch but I seem to recall that he's not that involved with your boys, right? If so, I would just handle it. Let your son know you're faith in him is shaken and will have to be rebuilt but for now, let's get this done and behind us. I would give him an appropriate punishment/consequence in addition to what the court may give him.
As far as H goes, I wouldn't tell him. If he finds out, I would say, "While certainly wrong, it wasn't major. Clearly he's acting out some of his own pain. He and I handled it. It's water under the bridge now."
For you, Serenity:
"'For I know the plans I have for you', declares the Lord. 'Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'"
Jeremiah 29:11
Many (((Hugs)))
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Thanks Gardener....After I posted this to you, I went to catch up on your thread and saw that you have wonderful beliefs...I still think you should go on the retreat
As for H...He is not involved unless he absolutely has to be, that is mostly why I was weighing telling him at all...I did inform him our little one has the swine flu and was very ill, he did text everyday (except yesterday and today), however he never even bothered to see him...That speaks volumes to me about how far he has really fallen.
I respect your advice and appreciate this answer - "While certainly wrong, it wasn't major. Clearly he's acting out some of his own pain. He and I handled it. It's water under the bridge now."
I will do it this way.
Prayers & Hugs for you
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
It's not all your fault. Don't dig your hole deeper than it needs to be.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
