well make that 2 phone calls she just called again and caught me. Should get call display. WAS will drop by and pick up some of her additional stuff that is stored away in a room for her. The everlasting last few items. (Where I live she can come and go as she pleases as its the law as long as she is on the ownership ... At least she is keeping to that boundry of asking first ) I deflected plans on the house selling and said I was heading out the door and ended it.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
It seems that WAS likes to say, i will always love you. What in the HELL does that mean? You will always love me, except when i am loving someone else? How can you love someone that way. There is no love like blood family love. YOu do not get to divorce your family so what is it they really mean about I will always love you?
Kind of convenient thing to say huh? I know that if i was the WAS and i found another woman that rocked my world (pathetic i know but its just an example), i would not be telling my ex i will always love you.
What a cop out thing to say in my opinion. What it really means to me is this: i don't love you anymore, but i can't bring myself to tell you that because I feel guilty of what i have done, therefore it is easier in my mind to justify everything if i tell you that i still love you, because i am that shallow in believing that love never dies.
So she gets to see house GAL. It looks real good now. I have a buddy going to stay here for a few days so she will see his dog and maybe him as well..... That should go over well I already had plans that evening so it fits in with my schedule. Not good being dark.... I know.
If I need a 2x4 on any of that please swing away.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
My thoughts are "why am I pinning for a slag who's sole purpose is to keep 3 children apart from there father and mother. I deserve better and there is better out there"
It is something I will think over and see if I can actually fully believe this. It is something I have thought a few times through this. I will post it on my mirror under another quote from a member on this site. And I will see where it takes me.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Cutter- thinking you are really doing well DB wise. Not sure what her motive is for trying to maintain contact- I'm guessing selfish reasons (likes that you still pine for her, keeping you as a backup plan) or maybe she is having second thoughts? IDK, I'd leave it up to the experts on this site for their input. I'm not an expert in the WAS mindset.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
I would really like to have these emails and phone calls stop. I was wondering if I should send another Plan B letter expressing this and I am going to continue the dark. This would be my first break from it in a month. As she needs to stop contacting me and my mom. She needs to go live this life she has choosen. I do not want to be dragged into that life. Nor should my Mom and dad. She is breaking a boundry I set up in the orginal plan b letter. Which was no contact unless it is life/death all else can go through the IM. I need to reinforce that boundry. This is really affecting my Mom's stress levels. Its an item that WAS and Mom worked on over the years during their very close relationship. And right now WAS has forgotten this.
Opinions please.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
I already had plans that evening so it fits in with my schedule.