Are you asking GIMA to pursue then? It sounds like it and pursuing at this point may scare someone away don't you agree?
I am thinking more along the lines of a "boundary" type conversation.
I feel__________________. When you do __________. I want _________________. If you continue to do _____________. Then I will ____________.
No pressure but start a dialouge on geting out of limbo. If you think about it GIMA's wife is doing some cake-eating all the benefits of being married without having a real marriage relationship. I am not advocating "bowing" up here and making demands but letting her know his patience isn't limitless. It also shows his confidence, I have decided that this isn't how I want to be treated. So the way out of limbo is to take action and lead yourself out of it. It's his choice and her's on how she handles things.
Change up some of your handling a affair script to this situation. I am not pursuing you but I am deciding things for myself that are good for me. I do think the timing has to be when the negative feelings have dropped and they are in a "friend" stage. Make sense?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
