I choose not to live in a marriage where someone treats me like crap,
Once your choose, decide, take a stand, on how people can treat you then you have control of yourself. A switch flips on the mojo generator and your PMA, confidence, energy, emotions and thinking start to line up with your values and beliefs. That's a boundary - how you act when others treat you poorly - it's healthy for you and your wife. It works, pay attention.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.