Always look great. Show her that you can live a happy life without her. Be a great dad to your sons. Find ways to enjoy life.
By the way, there is still no need to talk to her. She needs to realize she made mistakes first and be remorseful for them. "I am sorry I hurt you" just doesn't cut it.
Take care.
Very true. Also, you don't want to CONVEY "hurt" to her anyway. Your attitude and demeanor needs to be "I'm not 'hurt'. I'm DISAPPOINTED, deeply disappointed, in what you've done and the way you've chosen to try to end our marriage. For the record, dear W, I think it's chickenshit, and it's NOT what I want to teach our child(ren) about how you handle commitment and adversity. But that is YOUR choice, and I have no desire to control you. As for me, I choose not to live in a marriage where someone treats me like crap, and I'm doing surprisingly well, considering. Look, I'd love to talk some more, but I'm already late for something. We'll catch up later in the week!"
