She has alot to think about right now. She just got busted, she has no idea what is going on in the OM's marriage, nor how much the OM has lied to her. Oh yeah, he lied up and down to her. That is all part of the game. You can lay your money down that there was no divorce in his future. There may have been strife in his marriage, he was unhappy for sure, and your wife was his better option to play with. But no man goes through life thinking I have no problem paying alimony and child support to be with you, someone I barely know. That is going to hit her like a ton of bricks, as his lies of 'We'll be together soon' become mixed with I have to stay home tonight because of some lie then we are trying marriage counselling but I still love you. LOL.
BINGO.
This is SCRIPT, and happens 90% of the time. Read and heed!!!