I'm new wondering if this works...

[Energizer Bunny]

H yelled at me for moving something in the garage,

H doesn't live there anymore right? Shouldn't he get his stuff out of your house? My thought: He is the one who walked out. Why does he still maintain the right to come and go to your house as he pleases? Is "his" place just a clubhouse or is it his new home?

It seems that your H has one foot in and one foot out?

I still think that moving on, getting a life, stopping trying to hard to please him is the only thing that will work.

"H, I love you and would untimately like to put our family back together. I picture a relationship where we are true partners and are dedicated to meeting eachothers needs as well as our own. I see mistakes that I have made in the past and would like to correct things for a better future. I can only control my own actions though and can't apologise for the past forever. If you would like to work on this future with me, you know where I will be."

I know that in your case, having too much of a life without him was one of the issues. At this point though, he is surely aware that you are trying and that you are sorry for the past.

Just my 3 1/2 cents...