Pup, if you're reading, yesterday I was at W's work around lunch time taking care of some of my own business so I stopped by to see if she wanted to have lunch. She did. So while we were at lunch she said to me "I was half way to work and realized I didn't have my rings on and I was pissed". Today she sends me an IM asking if I'm going to be in the area of her work around lunch. I told her I was. She said "I can't get away for lunch, but I'd love it if you have the time to stop up when you're done". So I picked up a couple subs and took them to her office and she's got her rings on today.
Things just keep getting better. I know we have a ways to go, but I think I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. [/quote]
H4U, that may be just about THE nicest, most positive post I've seen yet about your wife yet.
Thanks Pup. She has taken her involvement in our marriage to a new level since we had the talk Friday evening. It's been getting better and better since July and then the break through in Aug, but since our talk, it feels like she's truly there.
Like I mentioned, I could almost see the weight lifted off her shoulders after the talk. And it was nice. Freakin nice.
I've been watching your updates and they put a great big huge on ole H4U's face.
I have to keep reminding myself to not fall back into the old patterns and keep the changes going. But with her turnaround, it's not hard to.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
You have done a great job and should be proud. I am incredibly happy for your family, knowing that you hung in there even during the darkest times. You are certainly a keeper.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
We are truly lucky to have found this site and found each other on here.
I'm so happy for you and I love reading your updates. I think the talks and the communication is key. We are both saying, "Duh!", but we don't always do it like we should. It's the talking about the "tough stuff" that makes the difference. Really putting ourselves out there.....not avoiding, not thinking too much, just talking....
I think I'm right behind you in the timeline....You guys had mini breakthroughs, and then lulls, and then mini breakthroughs, and then lulls....and now seemingly a big breakthrough....I'm hoping I'm going to follow that pattern as well...babysteps as nocode says.
Right now W and I are trading sexy IM's discussing what she's going to buy from Victoria's Secret for our trip to Disney in a week.
Last week, the fetching Mrs. Puppy was sending me texts asking me "Is there anything special you'd like me to wear to bed next time? What would do it for you?"
I'm like "OMG, who IS this woman who invaded my low-libido'd wife's body!!!
Right now W and I are trading sexy IM's discussing what she's going to buy from Victoria's Secret for our trip to Disney in a week.
Last week, the fetching Mrs. Puppy was sending me texts asking me "Is there anything special you'd like me to wear to bed next time? What would do it for you?"
I'm like "OMG, who IS this woman who invaded my low-libido'd wife's body!!!
LOL.
Come on guys…….It’s been two years since I had a “wife”……….how mean can you get…………
Just kidding that’s great for both of you… Maybe someday I can post something in that line………..
Take care buddies Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hey guys. Got a question I'd like some opinions on.
It's been going through my head for a while that W owes OMW an apology.
What's everyone think about that? I know OM is the one that betrayed her (multiple times and they are probably D'd by now), but it just seems to me that my W contributed to that betrayal of her and she should at least send her an email with a short apology.
I haven't broached the subject with W yet, but comments???
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
I think that is entirely up to her. Yes, she caused some damage but I don't think it is your place to bring it up. Let her get there on her own, if ever.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory