Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

Only thing I disagreed with was this:

Of course it could also be that the OM is now living with her (as a lodger ... ahem) so she doesn't need my plate anymore. They all happened around the same time.

Remember, "BAD = GOOD" and "GOOD = BAD" in these situations. If she were in a particularly GOOD mood (esp. one that's kind of different than the good moods she used to get into with you), then I'd say she had her OM fix. But a BAD mood would mean she's not at all happy with the way her plan is progressing, either with you or OM, or some combination of the two.

Well if that is always true then it must BAD = GOOD as within 15 minutes of seeing her on Monday I came to the conclusion, from observing her behaviour, responses, eyes and from knowing her, that she was either mildly depressed (been there but not an expert) or deeply unhappy. I couldn't quite put my finger on it but something was wrong.

Without being obsessive, the Facebook messages to me show also there was trouble in paradise - maybe it's fixed but it was too much to be just a fallout.

So, taking the evidence as it was and not obsessing over it BAD = GOOD.

Just keep up the upbeat civility, the "BUSY-BUSY-BUSY/GOTTA GO-GOTTA GO-GOTTA GO" and the mystique. Remember, you always want your darkness and non-response to be directly related to being BUSY, and not because you're being avoidant, pouty or passive-aggressive. A nice, hours-later (or even a day later) chirpy "Oh, sorry -- just saw your text message. I was out." (then answer whatever question she had HERE), followed by another upbeat "Look, I was just on my way out the door. We'll catch up sometime later." and then (((POOF!))) . . . you're gone.

Puppy

That is one thing I picked up from here. I always respond to texts almost as soon as they come in. I leave hers for at least 3 - 4 hours before responding as it also gives me the time to clear my emotions so that I respond without them getting in the way.

I do like the 'running out the door' but though ... I will try and use that next time! :-)

I am sort of expecting a text tomorrow or Friday morning asking about Friday night so I will try and use this stuff then and report back!