Update: Had the talk, and it went really well. Time to start Step 2. Start initiating the hugs. I'll start with just hugs. He is sounding like sex is going to be fine with the talk we had, but I know our past so we will see. Step by step. No more "letting it go". I'm going to work on it, and persist if things don't happen.
DQ- I haven't read it, but after I finish the Passionate Marriage I'll look into getting it.
