OH!!! I almost forgot....I told him that one thing that the phone call/email DID get me thinking about is how we are now compared to when it all came down....I don't like that we don't have a sexual relationship. I need one in order to feel loved and more than friends. He said, "Well, let's have sex then." "Huh?" I said. "Well, the books I read basically say we just have to dive in. What helps me is that you are happy with what I am giving you even if it doesn't always lead to intercourse. Then, with that feeling I am able to more want to do other things. I think that is a good way to start." I'm dumbfounded (yet a little skeptical...we will see about this). I did go on to say that there are reasons that he is stopping himself and I want more than once a week, although that is a good way to start. I said how I'd like him to get some sex therapy as needed because I can't live like before. He seemed open to it.
