Yes you need to keep no expectations. And you do not need any R talks now. These must wait till she is desperate to get back into the relationship, but not until then.
How will she get desperate to get back in? She needs to feel a sense that there is something to lose. Notice she called it "the family" home. She is still taking ownership of it, meaning she has not lost it. I would start calling it "my home", she has left it hasn't she? My W took notice when I started saying things were "mine" including the home.
Then you need to go out and GAL. Move on without her. At this point she will start to think she could lose you too. Until then, she will feel no pressure.
