What now? Well if you dont think she will agree to counseling to work on her immature, controling personality then I guess you just have to decide if you are willing to accept her for who she is.
If not you both will continue where you left off. Which with no trust will be nearly impossible to have any kind of meaningful R.
You never answered how your daughter is holding up? For a girl not to want a R with her mother could be very damaging. Not that she is not justified for her feelings.
