Hi, So my husband and I have been married for 8 years and have 2 children. We have had issues in the past but over the course of the summer I was acting like a manic depressive and accused him many times of having an affair with a girl that he met through his Co-ed softball team. She is married as well but I did find out no affair happened. So last Friday he tells me that he might have feelings for her and doesn’t know for sure. He was going to drive 3 hours to see her and see if he would be able to figure it out. She told him he couldn’t come because she is married and she is confused because this is the first time he has said anything about having feelings for her the whole 4 months they have known one another. So he didn’t go but was almost crying when she told him not to come. I was calm, mostly because I had read articles about this on here. He also told me about a month ago that he loved me but wasn’t in love with me and that his feelings were gone. So she is gone for 3 months on a tour that she helps with and he said we could try the 3 months out and see where it takes us, but I am having a hard time being all cheery around him because I know he still talks to her and who knows maybe she has decided she wants to be with him and I have no idea. It is really hard to be all nice and confident when the person that you love is thinking of another. Although I will say that if he didn’t care about me entirely he wouldn’t give me 3 months or ask me who I am texting when he sees me doing that. Over the past few months he couldn’t have cared less about who I was texting. He told me that they have a lot in common and she is fun to be with. She likes the same music, their personalities are the same, and she is beautiful as well. He also told me that she was amazing about a week ago too. So my question to you guys is how to move on. I was doing really well with getting more confidence, and loving myself more but when this dropped last Friday all that went out the door. What can I do to get him to want to be with me, and say adios to her? Thanks for any help!
