? for people who have gone to Retrouvaille

[Trixi]

LFH- thanks for chiming in; I will definitely check your thread out.
SD- thank you for pointing that out. He does write music (lyrics and music) but the lyrics are usually a bit of a struggle for him. When I write, it is totally like I think. (Heh-as I am sure most people can tell.)

He ended up not making it over tonight because of work being done over at the other house. But he was VERY good about texting me to let me know that he was running late and giving updates for when he thought he would be over; but finally, he gave up because they were still at least an hour away from being done. He'll be over tomorrow night instead and we will do two dialogues.

I know I need to take my expectations down a few notches; it is so much easier said than done. I wish we didn't have to travel so far to get to the post sessions; it will make it "easy" to find excuses not to go. I am grateful that he is hopeful about what retro has to offer. When we went to a marriage builders seminar, he was not hopeful at all. It was too structured (time-wise) for him. In fact, that seminar was the final straw for him, because I would want him to do what they suggested and he was resentful about it.

I have a question, but I'm not sure how to ask..if he says he doesn't 'feel' like going to post sessions and refuses to go, my inclination would be to say that if he doesn't want to go, we're done. How do you 'let someone have their feelings' without letting yours be overlooked? OR, worded a differently- how come HIS feelings always win!?!