Well, firstly, this couple is his friends and I don't want to "mother" him by asking if he wants me call them. He's a big boy and they have been talking about it for a few weeks now. That H wasn't too concerned about going out with the guys was a good thing.
I just don't get the xmas vaca thing. He only works 4 days a week, so he only gets 4 days off for the whole year, and he is choosing days that I have to work. Ok, so maybe his primary concern is getting away from work and we all know how stressful xmas can be & he probably wouldn't make that much money that week anyway. (flat rate mechanic). But, why don't I fit in the pic.? WEll, I get 17 days off a year, so maybe he's just thinking that it's easier for me to get off when he is off like Tues/Wed...
His anniv. is in Feb. and we talked about going to Vegas next year. haven't brought it up-thought I'd wait til things are better.
I'm trying not to be pushy/have expectations. (So, I'm failing at the expectations part.) He was so tired, I knew trying to get excited about going to see a band tonight, or going to the winery or whatever was going to be adifficult task. I figured I'd wait until today to come up with a plan.
We can't go anywhere tonight to stay b/c he works sat. 9-2. then he has practice 3-5:30. sunday he'll probably play race cars in the basement.
YES,YES,YES,I need to make myself happy. I want to ski, go out dancin', take my dogs to the park, fly my house, etc. many things to do. Oh, & in bad weather start scrapbooking with friends/mil... will work on these things. guess i feel bad b/c i want something fun for h & me to do together, but then again, i think if he wants to be a poophead while he's around me, then I need to go have fun w/o him.
been going in a downward spiral the last couple of days. gotta come back up.
Pam-a couple of my closest friends ditched me too. Not for reasons like yours, but i think basically, I was too emo for them and they didn't have the guts to tell me to shut up. Hmmmph...you guys would, wouldn't you?? My sis also ditched me b/c she became a realtor around the time h & I bought house. h & I were engaged for 6 weeks, so since i was doing the wed. stuff, he was doing house stuff, so he wanted to work with his friend. now, sis talks to him a little, bil won't talk to him at all and tells nephew not to call him uncle t, but just t. !! I said, no, neph, you have an uncle t who loves youvery much!
have a one-on-one w/boss at 11. my goal=not to get emo!! I'm very angry/concerned/frustrated and need to come off diplomatically.
