so, he asked what i was doing. i mustered up some strength and told him that i was waiting to hear about other couple, but since that's not happening then i will be going out with gf on saturday.
he looks solemn. he says he is tired.
Could you have handled this differently? Try asking for what you want in these sitches....you could have asked him if you could do something together....or you could have asked him if he wanted you to contact the other couple and make dinner plans...
we don't have a plan for tomorrow night. i'm sure that i'll have to come up with something. i feel like going away.
Ok, so if you feeling like going away...why not make plans for two of you to go away someplace together where you can go biking or hiking?
i don't feel like this is going anywhere. ok, so it's been 4 1/2 weeks and we're getting along better...how much longer do i have to wait for ily or i care about you, or i miss you or i appreciate you???
You ARE getting along better...PATIENCE....he's there, he's doing more with you...that says he cares and loves you, just not verbally...it says it in actions.
i'm sure that acting grumpy will not get me anywhere. i didn't act grumpy, just went about my own thing. but, i'm not acting cheerful either. i already laid on him a couple times to kiss and hug him on the couch. but, i am chopped liver. how do i not care when i care? i know, that's the million $ question around here.
You can care...but ACT AS IF everything is ok....
K, please also remember, it's up to you to make yourself happy...don't look to him for happiness....he can't make YOU happy....Once you really begin to internalize that..the rest will follow...
You are growing by leaps and bounds. You are working on yourself and on your R. You are making great changes. Go out and get even busier, girl. Go do things for you and enjoy them...don't just do them to show him that you can...do them cause you want to do them. Go cut loose with a gal pal and just have fun! Go walk on a beach at a lake or go on a hike...go to the library...whatever floats your boat...find some activity that truly makes you feel good and pursue that...not him.
