? for people who have gone to Retrouvaille

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Hello Trixi,

I just want to add that you're not alone in your experiences and feelings. My W and I did Retrouvaille this past weekend. It was definitely an emotional experience. I invite you to read my thread.

I was ready to file for divorce yesteday; however, I realized that my W was trying the best she could. It didn't measure up to my expectations, but it's all she's capable of offering at this time. I mentioned to her in yesterday's letter that "let's proceed with the six post-sessions and see what happens." You see, she invited me to attend the post-sessions and is actually starting to lead the dialogue. These are all positive steps, albeit small ones.

My suggestion is to be patient with the process. Yes, I saw the other couples at Retrouvaille hugging, kissing, and holding hands. I just came to the realization that my own relationship is simply on a different timeline. Accept what your husband has to offer at this time. One step at a time. His participation may just increase over time. Good luck.

Kind Regards,
LFH