But imagine if you have a child or children with your H. It is possible if your M doesn't work out, OW may have a huge place in your child/ren's lives as a stepmother or whatever. That alone would make me stop and think! That to me is one of the hardest things to deal with, the OW spending considerable time with my kids as messed up as she is!
Yea, not a nice possibility. And I would really not want to have my children around her. But isn't this a risk one takes anytime you have children married or unmarried. I mean really, do we ever really say, if my H and I end, I would want my child being around another woman. No we make that decision on how to live our lives, not base on possibilities and the unknown.
But I am so not factoring that girl's existence right now into my life choices. She can live her life and I live mine and I could care less about her. When that time comes, I will deal with it appropriately then.
For now, I know years from now, this is a decision I will be happy I made b/c I am a firm believer that the fruits of the womb is one's reward and I have not done wrong and I know my God won't fail me. He put this desire in my heart and although I have tried so hard to make it go away, its still here so I'm just following his lead and whatever the outcome I know it will be for the good.
